Giving Up A LIFE

Death!!!
It is like an uninvited guest during our lazy weekends.

But some people make appointments with death when they shatter in their lives.

It is been 10 years that my best buddies’ bro killed himself.He hanged himself after coming back from school.
The teacher punished him in front of the class and he couldn’t bear the embarrassment.He was in 7th std then and the youngest one in the family.

Last evening while talking over the coffee with Sudheshna,Madhu and Priya,they were telling suicide stories that happened in their college.

1)She studied in the regional language till 12th std.After getting inside the college,it became difficult for her to follow the lessons in english. She tried hard to cope with the curriculum but failed terribly. One fine morning the hostel woke up hearing her demise.

2)She was a district topper in 12th and a brilliant athlete. She joined college hearing about the scary Engineering Mechanics subject. She started having sleepless night thinking about studying the subject after hearing the bitter experiences from the seniors.She too fell in the failed group and she hanged herself.

3)Beauty made her the center of attraction in the college.After carefully choosing a good guy as her boyfriend,she went on cloud nine as a celebrity in the college.When the guy left her,she couldn’t bear the embarrassment and the teasing from her friends.She wrote a letter explaining the reason and killed herself on her way back to home.

What is happening to our youngsters?Are they brought up as WEAK personalities?

Why do these young men and women give up for silly reasons?Why are they NOT taught to screw back the life/fate when their life get screwed?Where is their potential to see the life as a gifted one?

SUICIDE IS NOT A SOLUTION FOR ANYTHING.THE ULTIMATE LOSERS ARE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.

Killing yourself is COWARDICE.It is like running away from the reality.

Have you ever thought that how you are remembered after your suicide?The world will tell that you are a LOSER.They will say “Duh!!He/she didn’t even had the guts and potential to change things in his/her life.”

Instead if you had put in some effort,your life would have been changed.Always remember that there is NOBODY in this world who had never failed or being embarrassed or being in bad times or being shattered at some point of time in their lives.bad times will make you strong and just because something bad happened in your life doesn’t mean that your life is always bad.

OUR LIFE IS GOOD OR BAD ACCORDING TO HOW WE SEE IT AND HOW WE LIVE IT.

It is not just parents but the duty of teachers and elders to make sure that they make the kids aware about the bad times in life.Rather than hiding the financial crisis or bad times in family,it is always better to make the kids also part of the bad times.Rather than complaining about not doing well in school/college,parents or teachers can spend some time with the kids to know the reason behind their poor performance.Also,it is better to raise the kids making them hear about true stories about people who are close to you who overcame bad times in their life.Parents should make the kids feel that even when the world leave/blame them,they can always come back under the wings of the family.

Most of the suicide attempts could have stopped if they had somebody to talk it out their burden and a shoulder to cry on till they feel better.

NEVER make an impression in your kids’ mind that there is another LIFE.Teach them that there is ONLY ONE LIFE.If we lose it,then it is a loss forever.

Let them grow up knowing the value of being alive as a HUMAN BEING.

Related Read
http://aiswaryabaskaran.wordpress.com/2013/06/07/failure/

Lessons NOT learned from the West

Couple of hours back, I was wondering about the drastic change that happened to the culture of India in past 20 years. It happened too fast and steady that now even when we look back, it is difficult to believe that we have changed. We mimicked almost everything from the West; both good and bad. When you attend some parties it is difficult to believe that we are in India itself .We see an entirely different population that drink and dance .We could see the guys in covered up in clothes and the girls in an extremely opposite costume. We won’t hear even a word in Hindi or any other regional languages.But the saddest part is that we adopted 10 per cent positives from the West and we made a mistake of swallowing another 90 per cent which do no good to us.

Our talent to adapt our life style to another is surely an appreciated one. We learned how to speak English without Indian slangs, we changed our clothes to short and low, we loved different music and movies, we changed/deleted our menu to give space for American foods, we even changed the benchmark for HIGH status family if the family talks in English.

But even after taking in so much into our lives, we failed to see the points that would have changed our culture for good. There are two key elements that we forgot to snatch into our lives; unwed mothers and high paid wives.

Though we fight for pride and sanctity, we never realized that all we have is one life and we have to live it and not to kill it. Suicide is not a medicine to anything. It won’t cure anything, also it won’t change anything. The supposedly “bad” name for you and your family is not going to change by suicide. It will do more harm than we think. The person who spoiled/cheated you will have a good life because the society pampers him by saying “It is usual that guys of this age do these things, it is the girls who should safe guard themselves. Guys of this age are like this. Who told the girl to go out that time? Or who told the girl to trust that guy?”Isn’t the guy equally guilty in this matter? But that is purposely forgotten matter in our Indian culture. If you kill yourself, the loss is for you, loss is for your family and to NOBODY else. The departed soul will not rest in peace when a criminal case is charged on it.

You have to fight and live a life with boldness. You should show the world who pulled you down that you lived a life, you should show the spoiled minds that not just him, but you can also have a life. After all, God gave life to us to live it not to end it.

It is sad that nobody gives protection to the unwed mothers and the rape victims but the protection and support are always given to the ones who created these unlucky mothers and wounded victims. The culture that we should bring from West is the way they take these things light. They have the law which protects them to have a life. Both the girl and guy know to live a life even after having such a tragedy in their lives. Look at the life of Oprah Winfrey . Today people feel honored when invited for her Talk Show. But she got raped at the age of 9 and got pregnant at the age of 14 and it was the courage and boldness that she showed changed her destiny. That gave a place for her in the both the history and world. It is a vain to crib that God is not kind enough to give a good life. The truth is that you killed the life given by Him by not living it.

IT sector gives you a lot of opportunities to talk with the people in West. One of my American friends told me that her husband is running a small business and she earns triple of what her husband earns. She got two daughters and they lead a happy life .But here in India, I know more than 20 couples who fight just because the wife earns 1000 bucks more than the husband. Some of my senior friends were telling me that during the match making process, most of the guys en quire about the salary and they always prefer somebody who is earning less than them. Another senior friend of mine ended her 3 years wedding 7 months back just because she started earning more than her husband after getting a promotion. Why does this happen in such a highly boasted educated and rapid growing country like India? We see most of the highly acclaimed and talented Indian women are either divorced or still single. We live a married life by sharing the both the joys and sorrows. Yes, the relatives and friends do come as negative roles by teasing the guy about a -1000 in his earnings. But is that the way to make the married life horrible? Is that the way to deal with your wife? Or is that the way to show the typical Indian male chauvinism? What is it????Look at the famous director James Cameroon and his ex – wife Kathryn Bigelow who won the Oscar for best Director this year. They appreciated each other during the function. If it was in India, the woman would have not turned up for the function or would have even dramatized by turning down the award saying “he deserves it” and then the media tagging her “the best wife”.

The life at West is simple. They know how to move on with their lives and they know how to take their lives to heights.

I think instead of having bulges and showing flesh by adopting the food and clothes  from the West, we should try to bring in matters that will change our lives for the good. One of my American colleagues told me that they adopt things from India that will do only good to them like stability of marriages, Ayurveda, recipes etc. See that’s how we should adopt another culture.

Think India… Think…