This is not a movie review or a feminist rant.
I just got back watching English Vinglish now. Fantastic movie!!! Hats off to Gauri Shinde and team for making such a wonderful movie.
The reason for writing a post right after the movie is not just because the movie is fantastically made but it is because I saw a lot of women I knew,including myself,in Sridevi.There is a scene where Sridevi asks a question to the tutor and the class appreciates her for asking such an intelligent question.The way she feels confident and happy about herself is beautifully shown.A lot of women I know are brilliant at a lot of things but they feel down,inferior, and inhibited because they are not liberated.
In the blogospere,why do a lot of women write anonymously?Why do a lot of women blog fantastically and their husband or family are completely ignorant about her blog?Why are women scared to be herself after being in a relationship or getting married?
A friend of mine once told me that sometimes she do like her husband not at home during weekends.The first question every Indian would ask will be whether she has an affair or a secret soft corner towards someone.She told me that she felt liberated when he is away.And what I saw was a free spirited woman who talked hours with her friends,laughed loudly on silly jokes,wore short skirts and roamed around in the house, did night outs watching movie and secretly rode husband’s bike.
Why do women feel liberated and free spirited when their man is away?Husband do love and take care of their wives but then why do women feel this way then?Lack of mutual respect?I don’t have a clear answer.All I know is that at times more than love and care what a woman needs is respect and freedom.
Once my friend told me that she sees a happier and smarter mother whenever her father goes out of town.When she was grown up enough to question her mother the answer she got still overwhelms me.
“I love him dearly and I do miss him too but when he is near, somehow I forget to love myself and I miss myself so much”
One of my seniors,who is intelligent and smart,once cried to me saying that her husband calls her a “waste” as she is not good at managing both work and home.She was a school topper,a brilliant quizzer, a graduate from IIM and now works as a consultant.How can somebody call her a WASTE just because she is weak/bad at doing something?
Like Sridevi says in the movie,at times when things go wrong in life,when family laughs at you,when you stop loving yourself,when you lose your identity and when people around you fail to see your brilliance we will have to stand up for ourselves to show the world that we can.
I dream of that day when an Indian woman feel liberated,happy and all herself even when her boy friend/husband/family is around.Thank you Gauri Shinde for making this movie.