Very lately I watched an advertisement on the TV.
It shows a conversation between two women.
Woman 1 : I will be 30 years old next month.See I look old.
Woman 2 (showing a magazine cover page where it has written Youngest CEO at 30) : See!!!men are young at the age of 30.But women are old and dull when they are 30.
Rest of it is how woman 1 becomes younger and prettier after using that particular cream/lotion.
I am not explaining that part because I am not concerned about it.
What bothers me is this quote.
“Men are young at 30 and women are old and dull at the same age.”
I don’t know how to react on this topic.
If the world is considering women as OLD at the age of 30,then there should reasons for it.
I have always heard the conversation below a thousand times in my life.It irritates me more than anything else.
X:Is that old woman teaching you that subject? Y:Yeah,she is 33 years old A:Your english teacher look so young. He looks like a college going guy. B:He is just 35.Still young.
I feel that 80% of the mistakes are with us, women, and 15% of the mistakes with the society and the rest 5% of the mistakes with the husband and family members.
To-Do for Women
- Put your health first.Please don’t follow the “Bharatiya Nari”(Indian Woman) rules and regulations which say that women should have food only after feeding the family.Try to take in protein drinks and chavanprash daily because you are running the family.Make sure you are not skipping the meals.
- Stop thinking that you are old just because you got married.Also don’t stop taking care of your skin and body because you got your partner.You can do your skin care if you make it as a habit.While working in the kitchen,apply some honey or yoghurt and then continue with the work.Make sure you use turmeric at least twice a day.Apply some facial while doing the household.Trust me!!!you can do it because I do so daily.
- Never go to beauty parlour unless you need to thread your eye brows or you need to have a hair cut.Your kitchen itself has everything you need to stay young.While cutting tomatoes or potatoes or carrot,apply it on your face and neck too.It wil take only less than 40 seconds to do so.Some of my friends running beauty parlours warned me saying that if we do facial for a prolonged time,our skin will look good only if we again apply those chemicals.Once we stop it or miss it,skin will start wrinkling.(Kindly don’t file a case against me 🙂 )
- Don’t give up your hobbies.Running a house doesn’t mean that you have to give up all your needs and personal time.
- Read comics regularly.I know this sounds crazy.But it is worth doing it.It will help you stay young at heart.Fall back to your childhood.Don’t lose the power of imagination.More over you get to know what your kids are reading too.Discussing stories and characters with them will only make them happy.
- Include your family members while doing household work.Most of us think that let him read the newspaper or let the kids watch T.V.Instead if you include them too for cleaning the house or preparing some dishes,it will increase the bonding among the family memebers.Also if one day you fall sick,they know how to take our the house.
- Don’t pamper your husband and kids too much.Doing everything for them will only spoil things.It is not necessary that you have to serve the breakfast for them.Instead let them serve and have it for themselves.Don’t imitate what you see in movies like holding the towel and waiting for the husband to come out of the shower.Then making him dress up.He is s grown up guy,let him do his things independetly.If his mom has spoiled him that way,it is your duty to change it.
- When talking about change,don’t let your family know that you planning to make some changes in the daily routine.Instead implement the change without their notcie.I bet you that they will never realize that change unless you tell them.
- Don’t expect your husband to read your mind and know your difficulties.Always be open and truthful to both your husband and kids.If you are not well,just let them know.Doing a bad cooking risking your health and then being sad by hearing the comments from him is not worth.
- Keep up good friendships.Always be in a friends circle where you can talk without any ego or embarrassment.
- Keeping a full-time maid will only make you lazy and you will put on weight.Instead you can find out solutions for the works you have at home.You can give your clothes for pressing at the near by shop.Get a washing machine,if at financial crisis,get a semi automatic one.It will save a lot of your energy.
- Don’t say NO to sex.Also don’t keep it as a weekend activity.Even if you are dead tired end of the day,sex can do wonders in your body.The love and romance between you and husband will make you stay young forever. 😉 😉
To-do for the Society
A woman is getting married after a lot of pressure and tensions.If it is a love marriage,then pre marriage and post marriage tensions are really high.The expectations and responsibilities on her shoulder will be more than the arranged marriages.When she is running around the day to keep the family running,don’t fume her with the following questions.
- What happened?Still not planning to have a kid?
- Does your husband have some problem?Or are you having some problem?Go to a gynaecologist.
- You look very old and dull.Do you have some problems with your husband?
- Not planning for a second kid?Did you stop delivery?(Phew!!!)
- Why is your hair that way?why is your skin this way?
- Your belly is looking terrible.
To-Do for husbands and kids.
- She is also a human being.Even she will forget things at times.While trying to do so many works a day,it is usual for a woman to forget some of the matters.
- She is your wife and not a personal secretary.Take care of your professional matters.When she got her own professional priorities and family priorities,she may fail at times.
- A working woman is like a pressure cooker in the morning.Don’t add more pressure to her by asking to serve you or dress you up.
- Forgive her little mistakes and blunders which she makes in a hurry and tension.
- End of the day,love her and pamper her.Make sure you take out all the tensions from her.You can see your wife young and more and more and more beautiful day by day.
Note : The above mentioned tips help you only if you are not staying with your in-laws or not staying in a joint family.I am sorry that I don’t know how to help those souls.