I was in a vacation mood after the long vacation which I took for Diwali.Coming back to office made me little slow in doing my work.
I was getting too many chats on Monday asking about the vacation.It was then I remembered that one of my office friends didn’t bother to talk or chat with me.
I didn’t care that cold attitude as I got in track with my work but back of my mind it was still bothering me.
Last evening I sent her a chat but her replies were very cold and I was sure there was something fishy.
I kept an offline alert for her in the Sametime Connect and waited.The moment she became offline,I went to the restroom.In another 30 seconds she also came in.It was obvious from her face that she was uncomfortable.
I asked her very straight what the problem is.She shook her shoulder in the typical Indian style to say NO and got out.I pulled her inside and asked once more.This time she replied.
The reason for the frowned face was that I didn’t reply to her on the day I was leaving home.I told her that I never got a chat from her.It was then I realized the culprit is the networks.I disconnect VPN very often but the chat engine will show me as available for another two minutes more.The person who sends me a chat thinks that I am not replying when truly I have not got the ping.
Certain people are like this.They live with many prejudices and they conclude matters according to them.Even I was having such a mentality years back which made an expensive loss as I lost a bunch of friends just because of mere misunderstanding.It was Dad who taught me to keep up friendships.I used to make girlish complaints to him saying “Oh,she didn’t pick up my call or she didn’t bother to reply me” etc.His replies would be always the same.”Why don’t you call up and see what the matter is?”
Most of the times,the reason for a fight or misunderstanding would be something silly and baseless.But people got too much of ego that they love to be in their stand than finding out what the issue is.
Once when one of my friends complained about her husband hiding something from her.I told her to ask him straight.But she didn’t.You know what he was hiding from her??He had bought a platinum chain for her birthday.He was planning to surprise her by gifting it at 12am.Since he was not comfortable keeping secrets from her,he had to act little weird to keep up the surprise. 🙂
So next time you smell something fishy in a relationship,go straight to them and talk.Sort it out.We lose friendships mainly because of our ego and misunderstandings.
Moral : NEVER CONCLUDE MATTERS IN YOUR OWN WAY